#28 -The Art of Coexisting: Tips for Happy Multi-Generational Living

Navigating multi-generational living can be both challenging and rewarding. With rising costs and aging loved ones, families are increasingly choosing to share their homes. This episode dives into practical strategies for making this arrangement thrive.

• Importance of open conversations for establishing comfort and respect 
• Defining household responsibilities to prevent burnout 
• Respecting personal space and boundaries for individual well-being 
• Clarity in financial responsibilities and expectations 
• Creating connections without enforcing togetherness 
• Planning for evolving caregiving needs and responsibilities 
• Emphasizing flexibility to adapt to changing circumstances 
• Need for self-care among caregivers 

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Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction to Multi
• 9:32 Practical Strategies for Successful Coexistence
• 35:32 Essential Tips for Harmonious Relationships

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:34

Hi there and welcome back to the Aging in Place Directory podcast, where we talk about everything that helps older adults live safely, comfortably and happily in the place they call home. I'm Robin Schultz, your host, and today we're diving into a topic that's near and dear to many of us how to make multi-generational living work. Maybe your aging parents have moved in with you, or perhaps you've moved in with them to help out. Maybe your aging adult kids are back home, or you've blended generations in other ways. Whatever the setup, having multiple generations under one roof can be wonderful, but let's be honest, it can also be challenging. So today I'm sharing practical strategies to keep the peace, reduce the stress and create a home where everyone feels valued and respected. Whether you're already living in this setup or considering it, these tips will help make it a positive experience for everyone. Before we talk about the strategies, let's talk about why so many families are choosing to live together.

Speaker 1: 1:42

It's no secret that life has gotten more expensive. Housing, health care, daily living costs all of them are rising. Many older adults are on a fixed income and adult children are dealing with their own financial challenges, so pooling resources just makes sense. And then there's caregiving. Many families move in together because an aging loved one needs help. Maybe it's mobility challenges, memory issues or just a desire for companionship. Living together can also bring a lot of joy Grandkids spending time with grandparents, sharing family traditions and feeling that deep sense of connection. But it also comes with adjustments. You're bringing together different lifestyles, habits and expectations and if you don't have a plan, conflicts can arise. So let's talk about how to set up your home and your relationships for success.

Speaker 1: 2:40

Tip number one start with open conversations. The number one rule for harmonious living is talk about everything up front Before moving in together or, if you're already there and feeling tension, set aside time for a family meeting. This isn't just about logistics. It's about making sure everyone feels heard. Ask questions like what does everyone need to feel comfortable in the home? What worries do we have about living together? How can we respect each other's space and routines? How can we respect each other's space and routines? It's easy to assume that everyone's on the same page, but trust me, what seems obvious to you might not be obvious to someone else.

Speaker 1: 3:26

Tip number two is define household responsibilities. Living together means sharing responsibilities, but if you don't clearly define them, things can get messy very fast. Some questions to ask who's cooking and when? How do we split cleaning duties? Who's in charge of home maintenance and errands? It helps to make a loose schedule or even a written agreement, just something to prevent one person from feeling like they're doing all the work.

Speaker 1: 3:57

And here's a little tip If you're caring for an older parent, don't let caregiving fall entirely on one person. Even if you're the primary caregiver, other family members can help in different ways, like handling finances, grocery shopping or just giving you a break. Tip number three is respect personal space and boundaries. Even in the closest families, everyone needs their own space. If possible, give each person a designated area where they can have privacy, even if it's just a favorite chair, a small corner for reading or a separate room if space allows, and respect each other's routines. Maybe Grandpa likes to wake up at 5am and watch the news at full volume, but your teenage son sleeps until noon. Setting simple house rules like quiet hours can make a huge difference. Another one knocking before entering someone's space, and this applies to both kids and adults.

Speaker 1: 5:00

Tip number four handle finances clearly and fairly. Money can be a huge stressor in any living situation, so it's best to get clear on who pays for what up front Consider? Will the older parent contribute to rent or groceries? How are utilities being split? If caregiving costs arise, how will they be handled? Even if your loved one can't contribute financially, they might help in other ways, like with child care or cooking or offering wisdom and support. The key is fairness, making sure that no one feels taken advantage of.

Speaker 1: 5:38

Tip number five keep generations connected without forcing it. One of the best things about multi-generational living is the opportunity to bond, encourage shared meals, movie nights or family outings. Kids can teach grandparents about technology and grandparents can pass down stories and traditions. But don't force togetherness. Everyone needs time apart, so let relationships develop naturally. Everyone needs time apart, so let relationships develop naturally.

Speaker 1: 6:10

Tip number six is to plan for caregiving needs. If one family member requires care, especially an aging parent, it's important to have a plan. What level of care is needed now? What happens if those needs change? How will the responsibility be shared? What happens if those needs change? How will the responsibility be shared? Having these conversations before a crisis happens can prevent a lot of stress later.

Speaker 1: 6:35

Tip number seven is be flexible and willing to adjust. No matter how well you plan, things will change. People's needs shift, routines evolve and unexpected situations come up. The key to keeping things running smoothly is staying flexible and being willing to adjust as needed If tension starts building. Go back to open communication. Check in with each other, see what's working. Tweak things as needed.

Speaker 1: 7:07

Tip number eight is don't forget self-care. If you're the one holding everything together you're caring for an aging parent, managing the household and juggling work and family don't forget to take care of yourself as well. Make time for things like taking a break outside the house, working on a hobby you love or seeing friends who will lift you up. You can't pour from an empty cup, and when you're in a good place, you'll be better able to handle family life with patience and grace. All righty friends. That's it for today's episode. Living with multiple generations can be a beautiful experience, but it works best when there's respect, communication and a little bit of planning. If you found this episode helpful, share it with a friend who might also need it. Don't forget to subscribe to our podcast so you never miss an episode. Thanks for spending time with me today. Until the next time, take care and stay well Bye.